Discussion Questions: 

1. What’s a small thing someone has done for you that made you feel really loved? Why did it matter? 

2. We all have expectations of the people we love. How can unmet expectations reveal selfishness in us?

3. The talk challenged us to consider that the purpose of marriage isn't primarily to make us happy, but to make us holy. How does that change the way you think about conflict, inconvenience, or the areas where another person exposes your selfishness? Can you think of a relationship God has used to reveal something in you that needed to change? 

4. The talk described selflessness as a “thousand little choices” rather than one big heroic act. Where might God be asking you to surrender your preference, comfort, or control in order to become more like Jesus? 

5. Read Philippians 2:3–8. 

A. How does Jesus' example deepen what the talk taught about mutual submission and putting someone else's needs ahead of our own? 

B. What is one practical way you could put someone's needs ahead of your own this week? 

6. The talk challenged us to stop asking, “What do I get out of this relationship?” and instead ask, “How can I serve or honor this person?” As you think about your closest relationships right now—spouse, family, friends, coworkers, or dating relationships—where is God inviting you to become more selfless? What is one specific thing you can do this week to put someone else first?